After spending months without seeing each other and then finally meeting up, our relationship took off quite quickly. I started drinking with my new friends I had met at college. (I regret going into detail at this point; please bear with me.) In the process, I felt guilt. I felt so ashamed and angry with myself for compromising. My boyfriend and I plan on getting married in the near future. Once your parents were not there to keep you in check, you let your peers talk you into various sins. She thought it was a better idea and suggested I consider the same. Rather you let people around you decide what should and shouldn't be done. I fell into a bad state with my relationship with Christ. Instead of living a life of sin and putting a facade over it,it was evident I did not want Godin my life. Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful; but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and in His law he meditates day and night. We engaged in sinful physical activity (though remaining virgins). My boyfriend wanted to remain a virgin, but we were okay flirting with the idea of coming close to sex. I did not care what God thought of my relationship. It was so unusual because I had never felt it throughout my time of being distanced from God. We are working on rebuilding purity (is there such a thing? I love him with all my heart; I think I will not find anyone out there like him. Can we continue rebuilding ourselves and eventually get married? The only fortunate thing is that you are starting to realize the problems sinful living causes.We wrestle with this issue more now because the time span between reaching the age of sexual maturity and marriage has bumped up a decade or two since biblical times. Then I point them to Exodus -17, a very interesting "case law" Scripture in the Old Testament. then ..." commands that provides some underlying principles applicable beyond the example used.
Keep in mind, I say, that in biblical times there just wasn't a whole lot of sex taking place marriage, either with your spouse, which was good, or not with your spouse, which was prohibited, and that's why there's more talk about adultery than pre-marital sex.
I immediately grabbed a friend's Bible to see if his featured the same book. You have two consenting adults, and neither has made any vow to any other person, so it's not adultery. When it appears that a pregnancy might result, is there rejoicing? The couples' sex life is ultimately a social benefit.
But where does it talk about not having sex if there is no spouse involved? I like to start with Solomon's Song, because it celebrates the whole package of the relationship — initial attraction, exciting emotions, longing and sexual intimacy — and it connects all of this to the proper context or timing, when "it pleases," a timing that is marked by public approval of the relationship, highlighted by a wedding (chapter 3). I ask these young, unmarried singles, does the community — your friends, family, church — celebrate your private, sexual liaisons? It will produce grandbabies, nieces, nephews, more members of the little platoon of the family.
Shall I then take away the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Author: Mark Van Bebber of Films for Christ Copyright © 1996, Films for Christ, All Rights Reserved—except as noted on attached “Usage and Copyright” page that grants Christian Answers.
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